Mommy-tasking

The most difficult yet fulfilling job I have ever had is that of being a mother. Over time I have grown to realize that no matter how great of a mother I may be at times I feel as if I can do more. Instead of allowing the feeling to completely take over and lead me directly to a crash and burn I transmute the negative energy into positive and push my way through it by any means necessary. That's just the thing though. A mother will always find a way to do whatever needs to be done for her children. Sacrifices are inclusive in this package. The joy expressed through your child while learning life makes it all worthwhile.

I notice that everyone initially has intentions on "being prepared" for the experience, but what does that truly mean? Does that mean you and someone else made an agreement that you were both in a stable enough place in all areas of life to start a family? If so, what does that mean? Apparently, we are all different so the answer to these questions can be many things. In my opinion, this is not one of those things you can study for, get ready for, or however else you choose to explain it. Being a parent simply means you live every day of your life trying o do and be better than you've ever been. No matter how many different things you have going on, which brings me to the title of today's blog post - "Mommy-tasking". 

What I see from most of if not all of the mother's I have the pleasure of being around, is a continuous effort being made to make sure that your children are well provided for and taken care of on a daily basis. There have been numerous occasions where I went without to make sure my son had the essential things he needed and a lot of the time we find a way to incorporate the things they want as well. I recognize that people with no kids have literally no clue at all of what they choose to give so much of an opinion on. I notice it all the time on social media and just in the world in general. Everyone can tell you what they would have done or how it should have been done as if they have a real clue how it all works. Even my partner said before he became a step parent he had no idea just how much work goes into being a parent. He says it is the most fulfilling yet demanding job he has ever had lol I laugh because that just means he is truly a parent because he hit that nail right on the nose. 

No accolades taken away from the dad's at all, this is just for the moms in particular because we always find a way to make it happen. I found myself working two jobs and dibbling in many many side hustles all at one time to be able to support any and everything that could possibly pop up, happen, reoccur. I just do not like the feeling of being without, not being able to do it until another time or at all. That is a feeling I had one too many times in my first year of being a mother for depending on that other party to be present. The unfortunate reality is they are not always present nor are they always willing to be so you have to remove the dependency and make things happen on your own. Two jobs, back to back, six days a week, writing my books, which includes marketing and promoting myself, tarot readings, editing and publishing for others etc. The list of all that I have been running around doing goes on and on and on. I even incorporated a few classes in there. 

I understand the importance of not wearing myself out, however, I also overstand the value of my son having everything that he needs on the spot. The feeling that I have from being able to provide for house and home as well as support my habits and addictions or anything else is something not a single one of these words could describe. On top of all that I do in a week, I come home to my child, excited to be in his company. He has grown so much over the last two years, he is so intelligent. I make it my business to keep up with him regardless of how many endeavors I involve myself in. He likes to put on shows for me and show me everything that he learns on a daily basis. Which is hilarious,  because he gets that from his momma. I used to feel so crappy because while trying to keep everything afloat, I felt like I was missing out on time with my son, and we all know time is the one thing that you can't get back. My mom made it her business to explain to me that TJ would understand and appreciate all that I do for him and all of the sacrifices I have made for him. I believe her, but I still feel that there should be more time spent with him. So I made the decision to do it all. I dedicate this to all of the moms who find a way to cook, clean, pay the bills, work two/three jobs, go to school, do the hair, iron the clothes, find time for themselves and maybe even a new relationship and do it ALL AT THE SAME DAMN TIME. 

Cheers to MOMMY-TASKING <3